Wednesday, November 2, 2011

Problems are unreal

In life, something that stops or bothers you is a problem.

Everyone has similar problems like those of relationship, job/finance, health, and lastly big worries about the country.

You can solve problems by, firstly, not having the problem at all. Know that life is too short to keep solving problems one after another.

Just wake up and walk ahead, problems will get solved by themselves.

Second, know that the problem is not real.

Third, know that nature has provided you the solution even before giving you the problem. When it snows, there are no bacteria since no herbs to heal you grow in that season. In spring, the herbs come first and then the bugs. In summer, the shade comes before the sun gets strong.

So, nature takes good care of you. And solutions will come to you when you are calm and collected, you use your intelligence, are active and have strong faith in the Divine law. Willingly accept the problem and see it as a challenge because there is no problem that cannot be solved. Things like doing spiritual practices, listening to people who have more problems than you and serving them can do good to you.

Problems help us move from imperfection to perfection. A seed contains the tree but the seed has to cease to be a seed to become a tree. Neither the seed nor the sapling is perfect. It has to cease to be a sapling to become a tree.

So, in life you can either see imperfection at every step, or you can see a movement from one perfection to another.

Every problem, once solved, becomes an experience and each experience completes you. In the progression of life, you will leave behind every experience saying, “This is nothing.“ Anything that is completed loses its importance.

That is to say it leads you to void or nothing. A sign of intelligence is how soon you arrive at this understanding.

Examine everything in life and say “This is nothing“.

What remains after all that is love, and that is everything.

Wednesday, October 12, 2011

Wish everything was labeled with an Expiration Date!!

You always wish you'd never be in the same situation again but sometimes you just land up there. The equation doesn't change just the variables do. I wrote this note more to myself about a year ago and today I feel that when you land up in the same situation your courage fails you. It definitely hurts to be hurt but there comes a moment when pain fails to hurt and it feels good.  This is what I infer from the difficulty I have when talking about the pain. My fingers start to hesitate at the keys even as I write the words here. Today when I was going through this note again it seems it failed to inspire me. It failed to work on me as it did the last time when I wrote this. I'm guessing that even notes or feelings come with an expiry date. But still I didn't feel like trashing this one as it may work for someone else !

I know baby you're scared 
but atleast you dared 
Don't worry ,if you put in at the wrong places 
trust the milleau ov face 
Not every one would disgrace 

Let me show you, it can be easy 
If you just let it be 
Nothing is promised, but I believe if 
If you give it everything, trust 

Trust and someone would really live upto it 
and you'd know whom you could rely every bit 

You know we got a lot 
Not evrybody will stab you with a knife 
I know you've seen a lot of things in your life 
It got you feeling like this can't be right 
But, this is not right 
Don't let the darkness abrogate light 

Put the trust in right places 
and you would see a sea of faces 
If you give it everything,you'd get trust
Trust every soul and not everyone would let you down.

Thursday, October 6, 2011

Kill the Ravan within

Today is Dussehra--the day of victory of good over evil; and it signifies the reign of the truth. On this day, let's realise that we are the captains of your ship and that we have to navigate the rough and high seas to end our journey successfully.

Charles Darwin had said: “It is not the strongest of the species that survives, nor the most intelligent. It is the one that is the most adaptable to change.“

Most of us have professional identities but no faith in our work. May we find courage to break tradition, and discover a new identity in which we find our uniqueness.

“God cannot help you until you, yourself, first, try your best“, says Swami Kriyananda.

Have no expectation of instant results. Do keep allowance for things to work out. Are you spiritually inclined? However, you need the component of spirituality in your life. Religion changes you for the better. Your life depends on your attitude.

Besides faith and patience, the other divine virtues worth cultivating are: that way you become a genius; to tolerate like a tree; to discriminate between good and bad, real and fake; to judge ­ wherein you do justice to self and others; to face life situations squarely with quiet efficiency; to cooperate and be capable of teamwork; to travel light; to concentrate on essentials overlooking trifles.

Negativity creates barriers and a life framed is bondage.

Never have a one-track mind, have a wide canvas to function in. Try to connect with the Supreme; He is by your side as and when needed.

“Tell the mind to let go of its sad stories, and instead focus on happiness“ (Sugandhi Iyer).

Don't ever collapse under burden, just thrive. Only those who endure and act can gain. Live to the hilt.

Keep in mind Soren Kierkegaard's view: “Life has its own hidden forces which you can only discover by living.“

Do good. Your goodness creates goodwill in people that takes you closer to your deity. And be a winner like Ram whose victory over Ravan we celebrate today.

Thursday, September 22, 2011

Forgiveness God's gift

Lord Buddha had said, “there is no revenge as complete as forgiveness“. This is not just an idealistic maxim. This is the only way to retain our peace. The habit of nurturing grievances is highly injurious to one's own self. Forgiveness is a gift of God. This arises from the core of the heart. By forgiving, the poison of revenge dries up. The forgiver becomes the abode of love, happiness, humility and contentment.

The words of Jesus from Mark 11:25 strike us like a beacon of light. “Whenever you stand praying, forgive, if you have anything against anyone so that God may also forgive you your trespasses.

Also, “If you can't forgive, you can't be forgiven; yet the wrong you experienced is so hurtful, there seems to be no way to let it go.“

Forgiveness has qualities not to look back at revenge.

The two can't coexist. If we sow the seeds of love, we will have a tree of love with abundance of flowers of compassion, charm and fragrance.

If out of fear and revenge, we sow thorny bushes, we should never hope to pluck bundles of grapes from there.

In the same way, we can't hope ever to create woolen or silken cloth out of rayon.

Forgive and forget is the heritage of the saints and of those who follow them remain cool. Ego is the hindrance in the way to forgive and forget. No relief is possible. The fire is there but it is dormant. It is the ego which is afire. The fire of ego burns the egoist.

The man with qualities of forgiveness never says that he is good, because those who think of themselves as good, goodness never draws near them. The man who can forget is a very strong man.

The span of human life is so short that we cannot afford to waste time and life in such trifles. Get over the bad habit. The best way to do so is to keep ourselves ever busy in any work which absorbs our interest.

Wednesday, September 7, 2011

Conclusions are wrong

When it comes to God, you have been told to believe, but nobody told you to explore divinity. Without being touched by an experience, believing something is not going to transform you.

Suppose from the day you were born, if I kept telling you my little finger is God, if I show you my little finger, divine emotions will come within you. If I teach you that my little finger is the devil, if I show you my little finger, terror will arise within you.

This is the nature of your mind.

Whatever you make out of the mind is of no true significance. As a device, yes, but in the ultimate sense it does not mean anything, because it may take one shape today and another shape tomorrow.

The mind is fluid, you can make anything out of it.

The intellect is just a survival tool, a limited aspect of your life. Survival is essential, but not fulfilling. If you want to go into the deeper dimensions of life, first you need the necessary instruments. Right now you experience life with just sense organs ­ by seeing, hearing, touching, tasting, and smelling. With these, you can't know anything beyond the physical. You can't measure the depth of the ocean with a foot scale. That is what is happening with people. They are approaching the deeper dimensions of life without the necessary instruments. So they jump to wrong conclusions.

People are eager to jump to conclusions because without a conclusion, they have no substance of their own.
What you call as `myself,' that person or that personality is just a bundle of conclusions that you have made about life.

But whatever conclusion you have made, you are bound to be wrong because life does not fit into any conclusion that you make. The moment you make a conclusion, you have stopped your growth; you have stopped and destroyed the possibilities of life.

When you dare to exist without any conclusions, willing to exist as just a small particle of this existence, then you will know the limitlessness of the existence.

Tuesday, August 30, 2011

Are you sleeping enough?

Lack of sleep can cause numerous health problems

Adequate sleep is extremely crucial for healthy and normal functioning of your body. Sleep in good quantity and quality is essential for physical, mental and emotional well being. It gives the desired rest and recharges the mind and body. Sleep has important homeostatic functions.

Sleep and heart have a close relation both scientifically and emotionally. The emotional relationship has been exploited in music and songs.

In an adult, the average sleep time is usually seven to eight hours and disturbed sleep is most unwelcome as it can have adverse effects on the functioning of various body systems particularly the heart and the brain.

The 24 x 7 lifestyle has relegated sleep to a secondary level of importance since humans have made a conscious decision to sacrifice sleep for completion of their tasks. The amount of sleep that a person needs to function in a normal manner depends on several factors, including age. Infants sleep most of the day (about 16 hours); teenagers usually need about nine hours a day; and adults need an average of seven to eight hours a day. Although older adults require about as much sleep as younger adults, they usually sleep for shorter periods and spend less time in deep stages of sleep. About 50 per cent of adults over the age of 65 have some type of sleep disorder, although it is not clear whether this is a normal part of aging or a result of other factors, such as medications that are commonly used by older people. In most cases, sleep disorders can be easily managed once they are properly diagnosed. Insomnia is the most common sleep disorder. It occurs more often in women and in the elderly.

Chronic sleep deprivation can have adverse effects on heart, blood pressure and metabolic functions resulting in hypertension, heart attacks, diabetes and stomach-related disorders like indigestion and hyperacidity. Chronic sleep deprivation also causes and/or aggravates snoring which is a prominent symptom of Obstructive Sleep Apnea (OSA).

OSA is a common sleep disorder. OSA is characterised by repetitive closure of pharynx (a part of upper airway) in sleep causing lowering of oxygen concentrations in sleep. Low oxygen results in rise in blood pressure, rise in heart rate, irregular heart beating and release of stress hormones. The chief complaints in patients of OSA are snoring and daytime sleepiness and tiredness. Increase in body weight also occurs which may be difficult to lose in spite of exercises. OSA can affect both obese and non-obese individuals.

To overcome daytime sleepiness they may consume tobacco, smoke cigarettes or consume excess tea/ coffee, which is again harmful. Patients of OSA are at risk of developing high blood pressure, heart attacks, type 2 diabetes, stroke, obesity and dementia. Management of OSA is highly rewarding since it not only treats the sleep complaint but also the associated disorders are better managed. Oxygen is the basic requirement of body cells and if this is lacking, be in sleep only, needs to be treated. The basic needs of life- Roti, Kapda aur Makaan (food, clothes and shelter), needs to be rewritten as Oxygen, Roti, Kapda aur Makaan.

Did you know?
There are more than 70 different sleep disorders, which are generally classified into three categories: lack of sleep (e.g, insomnia), disturbed sleep (e.g., obstructive sleep apnea), and excessive sleep (e.g., narcolepsy).

Friday, August 26, 2011

सिर्फ एक कहानी हूँ मैं

अगर रख सको तो एक निशानी हूँ मैं,
खो दो तो सिर्फ एक कहानी हूँ मैं ,

रोक पाए न जिसको ये सारी दुनिया,
वोह एक बूँद आँख का पानी हूँ मैं........
सबको प्यार देने की आदत है हमें,
अपनी अलग पहचान बनाने की आदत है हमे,

कितना भी गहरा जख्म दे कोई,
उतना ही ज्यादा मुस्कराने की आदत है हमें...

इस अजनबी दुनिया में अकेल ख्वाब हूँ मैं,
सवालो से खफा छोटा सा जवाब हूँ मैं,

जो समझ न सके मुझे, उनके लिए "कौन"
जो समझ गए उनके लिए खुली किताब हूँ मैं,

आँख से देखोगे तो खुश पाओगे,
दिल से पूछोगे तो दर्द का सैलाब हूँ मैं,

अगर रख सको तो एक निशानी हूँ मैं,
खो दो तो सिर्फ एक कहानी हूँ मैं......

Tuesday, August 23, 2011

Never Give Up

We human beings are facing many problems these days, many of them devastating. And there is a tendency to simply turn on the news and read about these problems without reflecting on how they can make a difference in their lives. The reality is that there are solutions to every problem. We must look outside our small window of solutions.

The ups and downs make our life more meaningful and strong; indeed they are part and parcel of our life. One who has traveled on the uneven roads only will be able to realize the worth of the even roads. Therefore, one should never bow down easily. Life is a great teacher.

Every day is day of learning. Disappointments, problems and failures will be cornering us but if there is a sunset, let us not forget there is sunrise too.

Jerry, a famous businessman, was sad and looked deeply disturbed. He incurred a huge loss in his business.He hated life. He could not imagine a life in an abject poverty and an utter hopelessness. He hoped for a spark or ray that would redeem him from the misery of life he was in but it seemed very hard. With a heavy heart, he was walking on the seashore with the intention of suicide.

There, he saw a few children of the fisher folk making a house with sand. As he looked at them so admiringly, suddenly a big wave washed away their sand house. He was upset and sad for the children but they remained calm and composed.

“Children, you must have been disappointed that your beautiful house is washed away“ he said. “O, we cannot predict how far this wave would reach and this is a third time it has washed away our house“ said a boy; and another said, “Come on, we shall build our house there and the wave may not reach there.“ This remark brought a ray of life in his life; his morale went high. His self-confidence was boosted.

He walked back home happily. He learnt one thing: Never give up.

Wednesday, August 3, 2011

I've been living a lie!!

I know You think I'm crazy when I open the floodgates to my mind to the world.I heard what you said when I left something precious for something I believed in.Perhaps, the feeling that I've been living a lie is the creepiest I've been through. I thought I was an integral part of something and then it dawned I was not. I was just living a Lie. How could I be so stupid? 

Naah you're not the only one, every one has a fair share of stupidity  to contribute to the world.

I thought that I am cared for but again the truth didn't betray me for long.I somehow know I've been looking for happiness outside and that is when I stopped looking inwards.Trust me nothing is more stressful for a human than when their goals are tied to the approval of others.I seem brave enough to be free to you but somewhere deep inside I know I'm tied too. In Distrust I trust.

Let's not bullshit each other.Do you think I bought everything just because I loved it, half-true.I wanted the stuff that will be "a huge middle finger to each one of you."

I have started living in a world where most feedback I get is bullshit. The compliments mean nothing--the happiness they used to bring, that's just a passe to me. I don't know why but these days I tend to dismiss the genuine compliments I get in all the areas (work, personality, sense of humor, creativity) because it has started getting lumped in with the same counterfeit flattery I've been getting through.

The sound of a song I have known for years, flooded the emotional gates.A burst of emotion and tears left the gates of my eyes. 

I know you would hate me after you get a taste of my truth. But isn't it somewhat yours too?

You're similar to me, and hopefully we'll both eventually learn that everyone has a sad story to tell, despite how two-dimensionally stupid or sadistic others may seem. Like they say, life is suffering.

If you're hurt after getting a bitter taste of my truth,I'd not tell you how genuinely sorry I'm for being the awful Me and will be the better Me I'd ever love to be.

Not because I'm too arrogant to be sorry. Because, I have just realized that how badly I've been wounded all this while living a lie.

For now, I'd sign off from here and will take charge of my life with the only truth I figured out for myself~

Happiness comes from nothing, so think of nothing to bring you happiness.

Wednesday, July 27, 2011

Life's acid test

I have been a very stupid person and trusted each and every person who came into my life. I always saw the world with rose-tinted glasses and believed in one and all.

After being back-stabbed twice by close friends, I realized you need to be prudent in judging people and not everyone could be worthy of your trust.

I still remember the person who actually made me believe that I have been such a big ninny to trust him.
After two bitter experiences, I thought its time I don't trust everyone and not to be like a child and running after nothings.

I pulled up my socks, made selective friends and trusted only selected people.

When I faced the betrayal, it was the worst phase of my life; as when your trust breaks, it seems like the end of the world. To overcome it, I said to myself,“ You cheat me once, shame on you; you cheat me twice, shame on me.“ Then I made one saying the bookmark of my life, “Forgive but don't forget the name“. It's really true, one should definitely forgive as life is too short for holding the grudge but don't forget the name so that you don't give that person the authority to cheat you again.

Sometime such incidents happen to teach one of us and make us a better person and make us realise our own worth.

The day that friend of mine betrayed me, I actually realised my worth and thought he wasn't actually worth trusting. We become strong and mature with such incidents. It is rightly said with every problem there is a hidden opportunity, so always try to figure out that opportunity.

Life teaches us in many ways and if things go wrong, remember nothing can get worse than this. It's time for
things to get better and you have learnt your lesson and things will fall in place on their own. Have faith and belief in God.

Trust yourself and life will be filled with colors of rainbow once again.

Friday, July 8, 2011

Attitudinal change

I have been a very negative person most of my life.

Whenever something wrong happened with me, I always blamed God. I believed my stars were not in their appropriate position. My faith in stones and astrology increased day by day. In other words, I became a slave to my uncontrolled mind.

I fondly recall the day which has proved to be a transforming experience in my life. I was at an airport and my flight was delayed, giving me time to visit the bookshop. I chanced upon a book titled “You can Heal Your Llife“. The book changed my thinking altogether.

The essence of the book was that it led the reader to understand that when one thought negatively, one didn't achieve anything. I took a decision to give positivity a chance.

I consciously changed my thinking patterns and learnt a golden key to developing wisdom in life, “The mind is your best friend if you can control it and worst enemy if you are under the control of your mind“. I changed my psychology and inwardly started consoling myself that I will have the best as I deserve the best in life.

I told myself that I wasn't aware of the span of my life.

And, either I could live in complaint mode or I could live in the enjoyment mode.
The choice was mine. I made it a practice in my daily routine to remind myself that I was God's child and deserved being in a natural state of happiness.

Furthermore, when the sun rises every morning, it rises for everyone. You have to take this oath everyday that “The seeds of success are in abundance in the universe and I will definitely produce results if I am patient, optimistic and hardworking.“

I believe there is a thin line of difference between people but that little difference makes a big difference. The little difference is attitude .When we put together faith, hope and love, we can develop positivity in a negative world

Monday, June 27, 2011

See the positivity in everyone, everywhere

There is a beautiful Sanskrit proverb that says, "Nobody gives happiness or misery. It is created by one's own mind." It means that you take unhappiness from others. You question people, "Why did you behave like that? Why did you insult me?" It is useless to do so. You should have compassion and feel, "Oh this person does not have that refined level of consciousness." If you don't want to be insulted, then nobody can insult you.

If you are basing your life on these feelings, you will be ruined because emotions are not stable at all. And not only are you bothered by your feelings, you also bother everybody by your feelings which are anyway momentary. The first thing in spiritual path: Praise yourself and praise others. And stop blaming your self and others. Lord Krishna says to Arjuna, "You are so good, you already have all the good qualities. I am only just bringing them up in you. Don't worry."

There is a story of a Guru who had stupid disciples. So, any work that the Guru would give, the disciples would do the opposite. Once the Guru's daughter was getting married and he told the disciples to whitewash the front of the house.

The disciples went and whitewashed the opposite house. The Guru asked, "What did you do? Now the baraat (bridegroom's family) is coming. Quickly whitewash the front." When the guests arrived, the disciples caught hold of each guest and started painting them. The guests got so annoyed that they cancelled the wedding. The Guru was very upset. But then he later found out that the groom was not mentally sane.

The lesson: even though the disciples were stupid, something good came out of all their mistakes.

So, the point is to see the positivity everywhere and in everyone, and hold the mind steadfast in the self. That is a sign of yoga and it will bring skill in action, success in endeavours and happiness in one's being.

Friday, June 17, 2011

Top 10 happiness mantras

Can you achieve excellence in the corporate world and still be happy? Find out from a new book called 'Happiness Quotient' by Dr Rekha Shetty. "

The top 10 happiness mantras for you: 

1. Each new day holds out a chance to create a whole new beginning, a sparkling new field of possibilities.

2. The ecology, the geography of your inner mindspace, is in your hands.

3. 'Swayambhu' is a word that describes happiness welling out of you, like an underground stream in the mountains.

4. Focus on Stress and unhappiness should be turned upside down. Instead of attacking unhappiness, we should plant a garden of happiness, by welcoming the positive emotions into our lives - love, compassion, wonder, courage, laughter and peace.

5. Focusing on our unhappiness by attacking it only helps to magnetize more power and attention to the negative person, event or object that causes it. Hence focus on cultivating happy people and avoid toxic people.

6. When the garden is clean and blooming and full of life, the snakes of anger have no place to hide; the thorns of greed get cleared away. When the clutter of old hatreds is replaced by order, the flowers of friendship bloom. The scorpions of revenge and jealousy slither away and the butterflies of laughter return to celebrate the flowers.

7. Too much television is 'Tele-visham' (Tele poison). Too much stimulation, a mindspace crowded by fantasy people and events, distracts you from focusing on your own mindspace, your home, your backyard.

8. Some days we seem to live a fantasy life dominated by day dreams, while reality tugs at our heartstrings for attention, like a neglected child. Take care of what is yours and enjoy it.

9. Let the cells of your body be gently bathed in happiness, positive thoughts and healing energies.

10. Physical fitness is the most important thing in life. The capacity to attain perfection of mind and soul depends on your physical health. Take care of yourself as no one else can do it for you.

Go on, be positive!

The state of your mental health says a lot about your life. Experts say that people who focus more on positive thinking and have positive attitudes not only enjoy life more but also lead healthier lives. Optimists are said to deal with pain and hardship better than their pessimistic counterparts. Remember your body reacts to your thoughts, feelings and actions. So if you're in a bad mood, your body will respond in a similar manner. While keeping yourself fit by eating right and managing stress is alright, positive thinking goes a long way in ensuring good health.

If you're feeling unwell and tell yourself that you're coming down with a bug, chances are that it will come true. Your mind is more powerful than you think. Stop thinking that you are going to fall sick or will take time to recover from a sickness. Experts call this the placebo effect - a placebo is treatment that provides whatsoever no medical gain except making the patient believe that it is helping them get better. Several patients report relief from their problems although they haven't actually received any medicine.

Thinking positive may not come naturally to everyone. To make that change you need to make a conscious effort. Whenever you find yourself getting negative thoughts, stop them. Start thinking of a happy event or memory that will cheer you.

Make positive statements. Instead of thinking or saying, "I can't do this or this is impossible", state positive affirmations - I will give this my best shot or I have so many things to be grateful about," sends out positive vibes.

Down in the dumps or feeling out of sorts with an illness? Visualization is a great technique that will actually help you feel better. Imagine yourself healthy and happy. When you visualize your thoughts, they send out positive signals to your brain making you feel better.

Positive emotions like humor, friendship and love are known to supercharge your health. Experts have long since asserted that laughter is great for you. Life is full of humor if you stop and experience it. Watch funny movies or TV shows, read books and jokes that make you smile, meet people who make you laugh. Laughter increases creativity, reduces pain, and even accelerates healing.

Catch up with friends. With the hectic lives we lead, we often forget how relaxing and calming meeting a friend can be. Good friendships are important so make sure you surround yourself with genuine ones. Having close buddies help you recuperate faster from sickness.

Social service and volunteering boosts feelings of compassion, which in turn make you a better person. When you help someone, you also help yourself. There are several orphanages, old age homes, mentally and physically challenged centers and animal shelters that need you to spend time with people and animals living there. You don't need to go there every week. Go once in a while and notice the difference.

When you spend a certain amount of time in prayer, and spiritual beliefs, you send positive vibrations your side. Have faith and it will go a long way in being a faithful companion. Prayer and meditation are good ways to connect to your spiritual side.

Thursday, June 9, 2011

Office Politics - I'll Outshine at Work & that too without YOU!!

Dear Office-Politics,

I’ve worked hard to build a solid reputation as a good performer. I’ve had rave reviews from most of my managers.
Four years ago I was asked to learn a segment of the business from top to bottom, front to back. It is complex and high pressure, but I did it and used to be considered a valuable resource.
Then I got a series of new bosses.  Sure enough the team was no longer a team but my personal stock never dwindled. As a matter of fact these days most of the people I see don't respect each other and undervalue each other's contributions. I think some are so blinded by their own brightness that they can’t see other’s contributions.
I have worked with all sorts of people and have been a people's person, but I would definitely remember a few for all the lessons they have given me for my professional life. In the past I helped people on a couple of projects who never acknowledged my contributions, even though they were critical to the success of the projects.  I've seen people who have been insecure and in front of my colleagues and customers were condescending and openly rude to me, although I didn’t take it personally because that was their general demeanor to everyone. I have been forced to polish their apple with my experience in the name of team work. I’ve seen no team work from them. The job had grown, and having more people perform the job is merited, however I worked hard, and they got the glory.
I could have bowed to the powerful trio of adversaries and could have been the X, Y and Z of the “If you can’t beat ‘em, join ‘em” equation but I decided that I would never in my life romance a whore(Office politics). 

Yours lovingly, 

Vasu Gautam

Lessons learnt from the harmless flirtatious encounters with Office politics:

Positive attitude at work is something bosses look for in every employee. It is these very qualities that makes some more welcomed into any team, loved by your bosses and envied by colleagues.
Are these attitudes so difficult to possess or learned?

Frankly, it is really up to the individual - whether the person wants to learn it up or not, or even if that person is ambitious.

More often than not it is because people want a short cut to success, are insincere in their pursuit for better positions that they fall flat on their faces.

Assuming you are of the right thinking, you are sincere and willing to work hard, what then are some of the common expectations from bosses? What will make them take notice, perhaps even consider you for a promotion?
Remember, out there – there are full of people who will only do enough, too lazy or expect things to be delivered to them. If you have the right frame of mind, here are some tips you can use in your daily routine.

Start romancing with the work 

This means getting involved. No matter what is your rank, always be prepared to get your hands dirty. That means really doing the work.
Roll up your sleeves when you see a crisis looming, colleagues scrambling for a solution, managers in desperate need of assistance. These are perfect time to let your skills and knowledge shine.
Do not view your colleagues as competitors as that will mar your decision making at work. View them as team mates and when something happens to the team it hurts you too.

Dare to have an opinion

Learn to have a view on things and voice it when the time is right and appropriate. You are not just employed to do the work; you are also employed to propose better solutions to make things better.
Form opinions and generate ideas that can help make the company better. Do not think you are low ranking hence your opinion won’t matter. That is not true. Also, learning to have an opinion and generating ides when you are young at work will also prepare you for higher rank work. That is a positive attitude at work to have that everybody is bound to like.

Learn to Co-operate

It means more than just working with others in a seamless manner. It also means being able to learn to share credit when credit is given to the team. Very often people like to hog the limelight and are unwilling to cooperate since the success may need to be shared. But think about the overall effect of your actions on the team. Bosses will realize that you can contribute but are unwilling to cooperate as you know you may have to share credit.  Your subordinates and peers will disrespect you for not sharing the due credit. This sort of attitude will hold you back. You learn more and achieve more when you cooperate.

You gotta be trendy enough!! 

You may think this is funny. Why would you need to keep up with news on business, technology and trends especially when you are new? This positive attitude at work is not just relevant to the newbie but to managers too. In this day and age, bosses expect everyone to know what is happening in the world around them. A flood in Pakistan may affect the sale of your company’s product; a growing trend in China may mean new market for your company. All these are basics of the working world. The more you stay informed the better you can contribute.

Be the driving force of your own Career

You want to move up the corporate ladder? Be the driver of your own growth. There is only so much your company and your boss can do for you. When your boss sees that you take the initiative to grow yourself through exposing yourself to new ideas and people or even reading, you would have made a positive impression. Get feedback from supervisors and colleagues and see how you can improve. Take on the challenges that will spur your growth even if it scares you.

Positive attitude at work is not difficult to adopt. It really depends on you.  Remember, The Office Politics is a fickle mistress, my friend. You never know when she'll turn on you.

सौ ग्राम ज़िन्दगी

थोड़ी सी मीठी है ज़रा  सी  मिरची है
सौ ग्राम ज़िन्दगी यह संभाल के खर्ची है
असली है झूटी है  खालिश है, फर्जी है
देर तक उबाली है कप में डाली है
कडवी है नसीब सी ये coffee गाढ़ी गाढ़ी है
चमच्च भर चीनी हो इतनी सी मर्ज़ी है
सौ ग्राम ज़िन्दगी यह संभाल के खर्ची है
खरी है खोटी है रोने को छोटी है
धागे से खुशियों को सीलती है, दर्जी  है
सौ ग्राम ज़िन्दगी यह संभाल के खर्ची है

Theory of Karma

There are many theories around the theory of Karma. A lot of us believe hat our present actions are he outcome of our past actions. That means we have no control over them or any improvement.

But Karma determines only our experiences and not our actions. Our personal happiness and sorrow is he result of our past actions but what we are doing at present is not the result of past actions. There s a tendency sometimes to blame Karma for our decisions. Secondly, Karma is very empowering. We wrongly understand that we have no choice in life that is bound by our Karma. Basically, Karma gets mistaken for fate or destiny, which it is not the case.

If work is Karma, its effect is Karama-phala or fruit of work. It is difficult to deny that actions have consequences. Everything that we do has results. Secondly, t is difficult to deny that we all want our life to be happy, meaningful and fulfilling. Thirdly, it makes difficult to deny that our hope for justice for life makes it difficult to oversee that goodness is rewarded and evil punished.

That is what Karma theory in the essence is. There is no need to blame anyone for our sorrow or be indebted to anyone for our happiness.

We are responsible for both for our action as well as the results of our actions.

We rarely question the existence of happiness in our life. If something makes us happy, we say we deserve it. Only when there is failure, then we ask, “why me“. The general tendency is to find an external cause for the trouble and blame it. Then the control as to when I should be happy or unhappy depends on others. Then there is no freedom to be happy.

It is inevitable that some news or happening will make some of us happy and some others unhappy.
Should I be overwhelmed by the joys and sorrows in life? Both can be overwhelming.

If we are getting overwhelmed by joys or sorrows, then the clarity of our mind is lost.

Friday, May 20, 2011

आपने ही मन से कुछ बोले

क्या खोया क्या पाया जग में
मिलते और बिछड़ते पग में
मुझे किसी दे नहीं शिकायत
यधपि छला गया पग पग में
एक द्रष्टि बीती पर डाले
यादों की पोटली टटोले
आपने ही मन से कुछ बोले

पृथ्वी लाखों वर्ष पूरानी
जीवन एक अनंत कहानी
पर तन की अपनी सीमाएं
तदपि सौ शरदों की वाणी
इतना काफी है अंतिम दस्तक
पर खुद दरवाजा खोले

जन्म-मरण का अविरत फेरा
जीवन बंजारों का डेरा
आज यहाँ कल कहाँ कुछ है
कौन जानता किधर सवेरा
अँधियारा आकाश असीमीत
प्राणों के पंखों को तुले
अपने ही मन में कुछ बोले

Tuesday, May 17, 2011

अलविदा कहने से पहले

चलो बस्ती जल चुकी है अब यहाँ राख का ढेर है 
है नहीं मोहब्बत यहाँ लगता हैं  जैसे  गैर  है
क्यूँ रोकते हो तुम मुझे जब रोकना नहीं चाहते
क्यूँ देते तसल्ली जब हो दर्द देना चाहते

क्यूँ तू ऐ नासमझ दिल अब भी है रुकना चाहता
क्या तुझे इस रौशनी के परे अँधेरा नज़र नहीं आता 
हाँ यह रौशनी उस आग की जो जला रही है तेरा घर
क्यूँ नहीं समझता क्यूँ तू है खंडहर में रहना चाहता

हाँ  मैंने  देख  लिया  है  अश्को  को  आँखों  में  तैरते  हुए
मगर  में  आगे  बाद  के उसके  अश्को  को  पूछना  नहीं  चाहता
हाँ  वोह  मोहब्बत  तोह  करती  है  भरोसा  नहीं  करती
मगर  में  सफाई  दे  के  दिल  को  दुखाना  नहीं  चाहता

मत  समझो  मुझे  इतना  भी  कमज़र्फ 
की  उसे  रुसवा  करूंगा  जाने  से  पहले
बस  एक  हसरत  चाहता  हूँ  में  उससे
मुझे  बाहों  में  भर  लो  अलविदा  कहने  से  पहले

Thursday, May 12, 2011

The real freedom

There are two kinds of minds --an open mind and a closed mind. An open mind says,``Maybe, perhaps, I do not know!'' A closed mind is that which says, ``This is how it is, I know it.“

All problems arise from knowing, not from `not knowing'. Whenever you seem to understand a situation and label it, that is the beginning of your problem. Whenever you think injustice has been done to you, or you are a victim, or you think something bad has happened to you, all this falls in the category of `I know it, this is how things are'.

But when there is amazement, patience, joy, then you are in a state of “I don't know, may be.“ The whole life is a shift from the limited “I know“, to all possibilities. You think you know the world and this is the biggest problem. When an event happens, there could be many possibilities for that event to be that way, not just in the gross, but some other reason in the subtle as well.

Suppose you enter your room and find that someone at home has made a big mess in your room. You attach that cause for your anger to that person. There is something else happening in the subtle but you could only see that person creating a mess and you attribute all the anger to that person. This is what limited knowledge does.

As we attach the events and emotions to individuals, the cycle continues. You will never be free from that. So first detach an event and emotion from that person, space and time. The wise person never labels individuals. That is why one should not see any intention behind the other's mistakes or attribute mistakes to somebody and bear grudges.

Then mind drops cravings and aversions and becomes free.

The world is for change, the self is for no-change. You have to rely on the no-change and accept the change. Often people think that certainty is freedom. If you feel that freedom when you are not certain, then that is `real' freedom.

Saturday, April 30, 2011

तेरी खु़शबू मैं बसे ख़त

तेरी खु़शबू मैं बसे ख़त मैं जलाता कैसे
प्यार मैं डूबे हुए ख़त मैं जलाता कैसे
तेरे हाथों के लिखे ख़त मैं जलाता कैसे
जिनको दुनिया की निगाहों से छुपाये रख़ा
जिनको एक उम्र कलेजे से लगाये रख़ा
दीन जिनको जिन्हें इमान बनाये रखा
तेरे खुशबू मैं बसे ख़त मैं जलाता कैसे
प्यार मैं डूबे हुए ख़त मैं जलाता कैसे

जिनका हर लफ्ज़ मुझे याद है पानी की तरह
याद थे मुझको जो पैग़ाम-ए-जुबानी की तरह
मुझको प्यारे थे जो अनमोल निशानी की तरह
तेरे खुशबू मैं बसे ख़त मैं जलाता कैसे
प्यार मैं डूबे हुए ख़त मैं जलाता कैसे

तूने दुनिया की निगाहों से जो बचकर लिखी
साल हा साल मेरे नाम बराबर लिखी
कभी दिन मैं तो कभी रात को उठकर लिखी
तेरे खुशबू मैं बसे ख़त मैं जलाता कैसे
प्यार मैं डूबे हुए ख़त मैं जलाता कैसे
तेरे हाथों के लिखे ख़त मैं जलाता कैसे
तेरे ख़त आज मैं गंगा मैं बहा आया हूँ
आग बहते हुए पानी मैं लगा आया हूँ

Wednesday, April 20, 2011

In a relationship, married or not... YOU SHOULD READ THIS!

MARRIAGE   When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I've got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes.   Suddenly I didn't know how to open my mouth. But I had to let ...her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the topic calmly. She didn't seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why?   I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man! That night, we didn't talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; she had lost my heart to Jane. I didn't love her anymore. I just pitied her!   With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company. She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Jane so dearly. Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now.   The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn't have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Jane.   When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again.   In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn't want anything from me, but needed a month's notice before the divorce. She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a month's time and she didn't want to disrupt him with our broken marriage.   This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day. She requested that every day for the month's duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door ever morning. I thought she was going crazy. Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request.   I told Jane about my wife's divorce conditions. . She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully.   My wife and I hadn't had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mommy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don't tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outsidethe door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office.   On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn't looked at this woman carefully for a long time. I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her.   On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me. On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn't tell Jane about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger.   She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily.   Suddenly it hit me... she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart. Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head.   Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it's time to carry mom out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day.   But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn't noticed that our life lacked intimacy. I drove to office.... jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind...I walked upstairs. Jane opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Jane, I do not want the divorce anymore.   She looked at me, astonished, and then touched my forehead. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Jane, I said, I won't divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn't value the details of our lives, not because we didn't love each other anymore. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death do us apart. Jane seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away.   At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote, I'll carry you out every morning until death do us apart.   That evening I arrived home, flowers in my hands, a smile on my face, I run up stairs, only to find my wife in the bed - dead. My wife had been fighting CANCER for months and I was so busy with Jane to even notice. She knew that she would die soon and she wanted to save me from the whatever negative reaction from our son, in case we push thru with the divorce.-- At least, in the eyes of our son--- I'm a loving husband....   The small details of your lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, property, the money in the bank. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves. So find time to be your spouse's friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy. Do have a real happy marriage!   If you don't share this, nothing will happen to you.   If you do, you just might save a marriage. Many of life's failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.See more

Tuesday, April 19, 2011

The curse of anger

Anger blinds us and we see what is not. It disables our ability to judge correctly and we do things for which we repent a lifetime.

The Buddha says: “Slay anger and you will be happy/ With anger slain, one weeps no more.“ An angry man is an ugly man with peace and happiness miles away. Despite all the comforts he may have, he can't sleep; despite his wealth, he is poor. Filled with anger, he hurts others by acts of body and speech.

Each one of us tends to get angry over the slightest issue or irritant. Some one has hurt you or your near and dear ones. Someone has caused you or your dear ones material loss.

Someone has not behaved well with you or your near and dear ones. And you get furious and do things only a mad person can do.

True, all of us don't react in anger and make a counterattack. The more sensible of us would like to “pass off“ such cases as not our problem, but the problem of the person causing it. One must change the way of looking at such incidents and convince one's self that the other person is in trouble and needs your love, not hatred. One must adopt a philosophy of life that is based on Brownian thought, “Good to forgive, best to forget.“

And who had said that you have to be “little“ to be “belittled.“ How true! If you try to rise above the “base feelings“, you would be at a level no mud can reach you. No insult or harm can come your way.

Remember, the good and the noble will not harm you, and the rest are already “too belittled.“

Plato had said in beautiful words, “He who commits injustice is ever made more wretched than he who suffers it.“

In other words, it is all in our hands to keep ourselves free of the brute and the insane.

Only you, and not any other, can be your deadliest enemy if you fail to control your senses.

The enemy lurks within; you must be sensible enough to tame it.

Thursday, April 7, 2011

Be Yourself .... Always

It can strike anyone, anytime, anywhere. Each one of us has been a victim of depression and rejection at some point or the other. The cycle of actions and reactions of each individual depends upon his/her own vision of life.

In the words of Ralph Waldo Emerson, “To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.

There is a beautiful story of a boy who traveled far to study under a great teacher. On meeting the wise man, his first question was, “how long will it take to become as wise as you are?“ The response came swiftly, “Five years.“

“That is a very long time,“ the boy said. “How about if I work twice as hard?“ “Then it will take 10“, said the master.

“Ten! That is far too long.

How about if I study all day and well into the night, every night?“ “Fifteen years“, said the sage.

“I don't understand,“ replied the boy. “Every time I promise to work harder, you say it will take longer. Why?“ “The answer is simple,“ advised the sage, “with one eye fixed on the destination, there is only one left to guide you along the journey.“

Patience, hard work and sincerity are the virtues that should guide us on all aspects of life. Take it easy on yourself.

Believe in the fact that you are special. You are God's creation, sent on this Earth with a purpose. Venture out with a zest for life and promise yourself a life of happiness.

Take out time to admire the beauty of nature like the sunrise, inhale the divine scent of the beautiful flowers. Plan an adventure trip you have always dreamt of. Hug your grandparents and sit with them and talk to them. And think positive, always. That will guide you in making small, daily improvements which over time will lead to big results. And happiness will be yours. As Oscar Wilde put it beautifully, “Be yourself. Everyone else is taken!“

Tuesday, April 5, 2011

Burden of Care

We are all dogged by troubles because we care. If we don't care, our troubles will disap` pear and we would see reason to say that life is beautiful and enjoyable. But the word care does not mean the care to love,  I respect and protect others. It means `care to not care' for the problems that cause our miseries. Why care for such a care?
This is a key teaching of all religions. This has a vital part of Buddha's philosophy in particular. For instance, why care and kill our happiness when we're not going to get a particular thing? It is in this sense that one has to be careless about care.

Buddha says the destruction of care and troubles is possible only if one knows and cares to see and reflect wisely at suffering and its causes as well as its cessation. There are other ways too on how to get rid of cares and troubles -by restraint, by `use', by endurance, by avoidance, by dispersal and by culture.

Restraint involves contro over mind and sense organs One who has such restraint, i following the right path. By use', we mean the use of thing like clothes, food and shelte that do not add to our osten tatious living and but keeps u n perfect and good sense.

The next is endurance which helps one put up with all kind of troubles like cold and heat hunger and thirst or any othe body or mental pain.

One who has this quality pain is no pain and distress and pleasure is one and the same thing. Similarly, avoidance a a way of life of things that are not noble and useful keeps one away from going astray.

The dispersal method involves rejection of harmfu action and thought.

And, lastly, the most inter esting one is the culture method. One has to cultivate mindfulness, energy, joy, calm ness, concentration and equa nimity -all factors of enlight enment. Only then one can hope to be in bliss.

Friday, April 1, 2011

Love with detachment

Most of the people I know believe that there can't be any love without attachment. Yes, to some extent that is true if we have to interact with others. For most of us, real love does not exist as normally it is full of selfish motives. Maybe, attachment can also be categorized in three ways. Sattvic attachment is that which is devoid of selfish motive, like that of mother for her child.

Rajasik contains self-interest but is harmless for others but can turn into hate if the person does not act according to one's will. Tamsic is attachment is lust, infatuation, greed and craving for something at the cost of others.

The essence of life is that there is no harm in getting attached but one must be prepared to get detached at a moment's notice. The secret of life is to remain attached outwardly but be detached inwardly like a father playing snake and ladder with his son.

Both are about to win but father shows agitation outside but is cool from inside.

Rama left Ayodhya within 12 hours without a second thought and never looked back, Krishna was supposed to be very much attached with the Gopis of Vrandavan but once he left Vrandavan, he never went there again.

This reminds me of two instances. A man's son had gone abroad and was to return for a short holiday with his wife and child after five years. The man was very excited. When his son with family came out, the son told him that they have decided to go to his in-law's place in Gurgaon since the house there is more comfortable. The man was shocked and went back home and had a heart attack. That is attachment.

On the contrary, one fine morning a retired man's son informed him that he got married and is leaving for the States for a few years. The parents sent them all the blessings and told him that they were always available to him and he could always come back to them in the hour of need.

That is love with detachment.

Wednesday, March 23, 2011

Office romance: a recipe for disaster

We clicked our tongues in deep shock when we found out how a woman had unceremoniously killed the child of her married lover (also her co- worker) in a fit of rage, just to get revenge.

A couple of months ago, a top-level employee in a leading publishing house made headlines for his controversial relationship with a co-worker. Both of the above instances are classic examples of office romance, gone horribly wrong.

Given the large number of hours we spend in our office, it is not surprising that many people today look within the cubicles of their office for potential partners. In fact, if the results of a recent survey are to be believed, 25 per cent of workers who started an office relationship, ended up getting married to their partners. The same survey also suggested that about 41 per cent of employees think that an office romance can jeopardise their career.

So is it love actually, or mere fatal attraction? "It is not just the physical attraction, but an emotional bond that brings two individuals together at the workplace," says Ritesh K, a software engineer. "The girl I dated in my previous office, was more than just a pretty thing. We bonded over a common love for movies and eventually found that we shared a lot of other interests too. But, somehow, it never worked out and things got so awkward that I finally quit," he says poignantly.

The bigger problem regarding romance in the workplace may be what appears to be a growing trend — relationships that are blossoming among employees who are married to someone else. "I fell in love with a married man who I worked with and it was disastrous," admits Reshma, a designer and single mother. "Even though I knew I was being foolish, I couldn't help but continue the relationship. Eventually, I had to be treated for severe depression and I put in my papers".

In some cases, however, it doesn't merely end with one of the two involved quitting the present workplace. "Even if one of them happens to be in a powerful position in the organisation, the partner will make full use of the opportunity to cash in on the courtship and climb the ranks," opines Sheriff Ansari, a HR manager. And most often, it is the men in powerful positions who face the music. "Even when the relationship ends, these men would be forced to agree to the terms posed by their ex, primarily to hush up the whole affair," he adds.

Women, it seems, have it easier. "It is a tad easier for women to play victim," observes Mridula Shankar, a merchandiser, "I have seen many of my friends getting sympathy and attention this way." The bottomline is, there is nothing fundamentally wrong with seeing someone from your workplace. However, remember that you will be playing with fire. Be cautious and try to maintain professionalism and integrity. You never know when things will spin out of control.

Picking up the pieces :

- Keep your dignity intact and keep it as professional as possible.
- Stay discreet. Don't further add to the gossip circulating on your floor about why your relationship didn't work out.
- Release some of the anger. Delete e-mails, phone numbers and text messages or just chuck pebbles into the sea — whatever gives your anger a physical form.
- Worst case scenario — quit your job and start afresh elsewhere. Change is always good.
- Forgo revenge. Thrashing his/her computer or causing him/her physical harm might seem extremely appealing, but it is up to you to be the better person. Don't stoop down to such levels.
- If you are unable to cope with the depression, visit your therapist before you do something drastic.

Saturday, March 19, 2011

Internet Abbreviations

LMAO =» Laughing My As* Off
LOL =» Laughing Out Loud
AFAIK =» As Far As I Know
AFK =» Away From Keyboard
ASAP =» As Soon As Possible
BAS =» Big A$$ Smile
BBL =» Be Back Later
BBN =» Bye Bye Now
BBS =» Be Back Soon
BEG =» Big Evil Grin
BF =» Boyfriend
BIBO =» Beer In, Beer Out
BRB =» Be Right Back
BTW =» By The Way
BWL =» Bursting With Laughter
C&G =» Chuckle and Grin
CICO =» Coffee In, Coffee Out
CID =» Crying In Disgrace
CNP =» Continued (in my) Next Post
CP =» Chat Post(a chat message)
CRBT =» Crying Real Big Tears
CSG =» Chuckle Snicker Grin
CYA =» See You (Seeya)
CYAL8R =» See You Later (Seeyalata)
DLTBBB =» Don't Let The Bed Bugs Bite
EG =» Evil Grin
EMSG =» Email Message
FC =» Fingers Crossed
FTBOMH =» From The Bottom Of My Heart
FYI =» For Your Information
FWIW =» For What It's Worth
GAL =» Get A Life
GF =» Girlfriend
GFN =» Gone For Now
GMBA =» Giggling My Butt Off
GMTA =» Great Minds Think Alike
GTSY =» Glad To See You
H&K =» Hug and Kiss
HABU =» Have A Better 'Un
HAGN =» Have A Good Night
HAGU =» Have A Good 'Un
HHIS =» Hanging Head in Shame
HUB =» Head Up Butt
IAE =» In Any Event
IC =» I See
IGP =» I Gotta Pee
IMNSHO =» In My Not So Humble Opinion
IMO =» In My Opinion
IMCO =» In My Considered Opinion
IMHO =» In My Humble Opinion
IOW =» In Other Words
IRL =» In Real Life
IWALU =» I Will Always Love You
JMO =» Just My Opinion
JTLYK =» Just To Let You Know
KIT =» Keep In Touch
KOC =» Kiss On Cheek
KOL =» Kiss On Lips
L8R =» Later
L8R G8R =» Later 'Gater
LHM =» Lord Help Me
LHO =» Laughing Head Off
LHU =» Lord Help Us
LMAO =» Laughing My A$$ Off
LMSO =» Laughing My Socks Off
LOL =» Laugh Out Loud
LSHMBB =» Laughing So Hard My Belly is Bouncing
LSHMBH =» Laughing So Hard My Belly Hurts
LSHTTARDML =» Laughing So Hard The Tears Are Running Down My Leg
LTNS =» Long Time No See
LTS =» Laughing To Self
LUWAMH =» Love You With All My Heart
LY =» Love Ya
MTF =» More To Follow
NRN =» No Reply Necessary
NADT =» Not A Darn Thing
OIC =» Oh, I See
OL =» Old Lady (significant other)
OM =» Old Man (significant other)
OTOH =» On The Other Hand
OTTOMH =» Off The Top of My Head
PDS =» Please Don't Shoot
PITA =» Pain In The A$$
PM =» Private Message
PMFJI =» Pardon Me For Jumping In
PMP =» Peed My Pants
POAHF =» Put On A Happy Face
QSL =» Reply
QSO =» Conversation
QT =» Cutie
ROFL =» Rolling On Floor Laughing
ROFLAPMP =» ROFL And Peeing My Pants
ROFLUTSROFL =» Unable to Speak
RTFM =» Read The F****** Manual!
SETE =» Smiling Ear To Ear
SHID =» Slaps Head In Disgust
SNERT =» Snot-Nosed Egotistical Rude Teenager
SO =» Significant Other
SOT =» Short Of Time
SOTMG =» Short Of Time Must Go
SWAK =» Sealed With A Kiss
SWAS =» Scientific Wild A$$ Guess
SWL =» Screaming with Laughter
SYS =» See You Soon
TA =» Thanks Again
TGIF =» Thank God It's Friday
TCOY =» Take Care Of Yourself
TILII =» Tell It Like It Is
TNT =» Till Next Time
TOY =» Thinking Of You
TTFN =» Ta Ta For Now
TTYL =» Talk To You Later
WAS =» Wild A$$ Guess
WB =» Welcome Back
WTH =» What/Who The Heck (or sub an 'F' for the 'H')
YBS =» You'll Be Sorry
YG =» Young Gentleman
YL =» Young Lady
YM =» Young Man