Wednesday, December 29, 2010

The argument guide

No relationship is smooth sailing. As much as the love exists, arguments, however petty, are bound to crop up occasionally. What's important, however, is how you deal with them — let them simmer and boil out of control or nip them in the bud. If you've had an argument with your loved one, here's how to get things back on track.

Let it go:
Once the argument has died down, keep out of each other's way for a while. Don't make snap decisions or prolong the argument.

Keep it frost-free
It can be very tempting to want to freeze the other out by staying out of his/her way for as long as possible. But remember, the longer you leave it, the harder it will be to start talking again.

Calm down
Shouting and screaming will not help. Not only will it give you a sore throat, but you're also more likely to say things you don't mean. So, stay calm.

The blame game
There are two sides to every argument. Trying to lay the blame on one person before the matter has been fully discussed is pointless and can lead to more resentment.

Don't get violent
If you think there's a chance that you or your partner are going to become violent during an argument, move out of there straight away.

Walk away
If your point isn't getting through, call a halt to the argument and give yourself some time to think over what to do next.

Take a break
If you feel your relationship is mostly made up of arguments and this is bringing you down, take a break from the relationship if that's possible. Distance does make the heart grow fonder.

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