It is very important to know about interpersonal relationships - What keeps them going...& what really disturbs them.
Interpersonal relationships get disturbed, when disagreement begins. As long as there is agreement, they don't get disturbed at all. So what disturbs a relationship? ... Disagreement.
Now take a look at yourself... Have you always agreed with yourself?
you have not agreed. You had an idea yesterday... and today, you have a different idea! Five years back you had different ideas and they did not necessarily agree with the ideas you have today. So when you can have a disagreement with yourself, why not with someone else, next to you? The person, with whom you have a disagreement, is just an old photocopy of your old self - or maybe even a new copy ! What you disagree with today, you may agree on, three years from now. So you need to take a look at your own thought patterns and your emotional patterns
Monday, May 10, 2010
Tuesday, April 20, 2010
Good Advice
One: Give people more than they expect and do it cheerfully.
Two: Marry a man / woman you love to talk to. As you get older, their conversational skills will be as important as any other.
Three: Don't believe all you hear, spend all you have or sleep all you want.
Four: When you say, "I love you," mean it.
Five: When you say, "I'm sorry," look the person in the eye.
Six: Be engaged at least six months before you get married.
Seven: Believe in love at first sight.
Eight: Never laugh at anyone's dreams. People who don't have dreams don't have much.
Nine: Love deeply and passionately. You might get hurt but it's the only way to live life completely.
Ten: In disagreements, fight fairly. No name calling.
Eleven: Don't judge people by their relatives.
Twelve: Talk slowly but think quickly.
Thirteen: When someone asks you a question you don't want to answer, smile and ask, "Why do you want to know?"
Fourteen: Remember that great love and great achievements involve great risk.
Fifteen: Say "bless you" when you hear someone sneeze.
Sixteen: When you lose, don't lose the lesson.
Seventeen: Remember the three Rs: Respect for self; Respect for others; and Responsibility for all your actions.
Eighteen: Don't let a little dispute injure a great friendship.
Nineteen: When you realize you've made a mistake, take immediate steps to correct it.
Twenty: Smile when picking up the phone. The caller will hear it in your voice.
Twenty-One: Spend some time alone.
Two: Marry a man / woman you love to talk to. As you get older, their conversational skills will be as important as any other.
Three: Don't believe all you hear, spend all you have or sleep all you want.
Four: When you say, "I love you," mean it.
Five: When you say, "I'm sorry," look the person in the eye.
Six: Be engaged at least six months before you get married.
Seven: Believe in love at first sight.
Eight: Never laugh at anyone's dreams. People who don't have dreams don't have much.
Nine: Love deeply and passionately. You might get hurt but it's the only way to live life completely.
Ten: In disagreements, fight fairly. No name calling.
Eleven: Don't judge people by their relatives.
Twelve: Talk slowly but think quickly.
Thirteen: When someone asks you a question you don't want to answer, smile and ask, "Why do you want to know?"
Fourteen: Remember that great love and great achievements involve great risk.
Fifteen: Say "bless you" when you hear someone sneeze.
Sixteen: When you lose, don't lose the lesson.
Seventeen: Remember the three Rs: Respect for self; Respect for others; and Responsibility for all your actions.
Eighteen: Don't let a little dispute injure a great friendship.
Nineteen: When you realize you've made a mistake, take immediate steps to correct it.
Twenty: Smile when picking up the phone. The caller will hear it in your voice.
Twenty-One: Spend some time alone.
Very Simple Secrets of Happiness
Most people feel happy only when their material desires are satisfied. I have found, though, that happiness is a sensation that has little to do with external forces, such as what we possess and what we earn.
Instead, it is an emotional state that we can turn on and off at will. By embracing the talents and opportunities we're given instead of clinging to the pain we've suffered in the past, we can create internal joy at any time.
Steps to take that will help you feel true happiness:
Take responsibility for your mistakes. We fear others will dislike us when we make mistakes, so we torture ourselves by trying to hide or deny them. In fact, what people dislike are the excuses and the blame used to cover up mistakes. Owning up to your mistakes shows you care and helps bring resolution and healing.
Helpful:
Forgive yourself first, which is perhaps the biggest hurdle. Mistakes are tough on self-esteem if you aim to be perfect. However, no one gets through life without making a few.
Apologize and rectify the error. Others will welcome your help, and you'll feel happier with yourself for taking constructive action.
Think of the most recent mistake you've made. If you haven't made amends, it's probably not too late to say, "I'm sorry."
Stay in charge of your thoughts and feelings. Although you can't control events, you can manage your reactions to them. Only you can decide whether to choose harmony or turmoil.
Example: After some treasured family heirlooms were stolen from me several years ago, I realized that my anger had taken over my thoughts. Only by vividly picturing the thief using the robbery money to buy presents for his children was I able to reclaim my thoughts. Unrealistic? Probably, but instead of obsessing about the injustice, I was able to get beyond my resentment.
Helpful:
Use mental imagery. Holding a positive image in your mind crowds out negativity, and positive thoughts have been shown to create happier feelings.
Exaggerate your troubles, stretching complaints to such hilarious limits that you end up laughing.
Take a time-out. Go for a nature walk. The outdoors is a natural tonic. Or meditate, listen to music or give yourself a pep talk.
Have faith that you can overcome obstacles. Why give up in despair when nature constantly gives us the hopeful message that we can always find a way?
Example: Jogging on a recently repaved road, I noticed one area of the new asphalt changing over a period of weeks. It first rose up several inches, then cracked, then opened like a volcano. What emerged was foliage.
Trapped under the pavement, a skunk cabbage seed had grown into a plant so hardy it broke right through to the light and air.
Everyone faces walls and barriers. The unhappy choice is to let them stop you. Believing you can find an opening to grow and blossom is the joyous, life-affirming option.
Helpful:
Be open to redirection. When things don't go as you have planned, stop and think where this different path might be leading you. Events that at first seem to be unfortunate or undesirable may actually provide surprising advantages.
Judge each problem as an opportunity to grow. Many patients I've treated and counseled over the years have said their illnesses taught them to value their lives and implement wonderful changes.
You don't have to "break through the pavement" in a single day. Take troubles one step at a time. Celebrate each sign of progress before taking the next step.
Deal constructively with criticism. The Sufi poet Rumi wrote, "Criticism polishes my mirror."
Regarding criticism as a threat, an insult or proof that you're worthless won't make you happy. Instead, it is better to take a more optimistic view and see criticism as a learning tool to help you improve.
I've been fortunate to have many critics among my patients. When people give you criticism, it means they feel you are willing to listen and change.
Helpful:
Evaluate the source of the criticism. Those who love finding fault with everyone will only scratch your mirror, not polish it.
When criticized by people you trust, think of yourself as an athlete getting direction and support from a coach who wants to see you perform better.
Don't let criticism shake your confidence. Use appraisals as a way to help you reach a higher level of performance.
Instead, it is an emotional state that we can turn on and off at will. By embracing the talents and opportunities we're given instead of clinging to the pain we've suffered in the past, we can create internal joy at any time.
Steps to take that will help you feel true happiness:
Take responsibility for your mistakes. We fear others will dislike us when we make mistakes, so we torture ourselves by trying to hide or deny them. In fact, what people dislike are the excuses and the blame used to cover up mistakes. Owning up to your mistakes shows you care and helps bring resolution and healing.
Helpful:
Forgive yourself first, which is perhaps the biggest hurdle. Mistakes are tough on self-esteem if you aim to be perfect. However, no one gets through life without making a few.
Apologize and rectify the error. Others will welcome your help, and you'll feel happier with yourself for taking constructive action.
Think of the most recent mistake you've made. If you haven't made amends, it's probably not too late to say, "I'm sorry."
Stay in charge of your thoughts and feelings. Although you can't control events, you can manage your reactions to them. Only you can decide whether to choose harmony or turmoil.
Example: After some treasured family heirlooms were stolen from me several years ago, I realized that my anger had taken over my thoughts. Only by vividly picturing the thief using the robbery money to buy presents for his children was I able to reclaim my thoughts. Unrealistic? Probably, but instead of obsessing about the injustice, I was able to get beyond my resentment.
Helpful:
Use mental imagery. Holding a positive image in your mind crowds out negativity, and positive thoughts have been shown to create happier feelings.
Exaggerate your troubles, stretching complaints to such hilarious limits that you end up laughing.
Take a time-out. Go for a nature walk. The outdoors is a natural tonic. Or meditate, listen to music or give yourself a pep talk.
Have faith that you can overcome obstacles. Why give up in despair when nature constantly gives us the hopeful message that we can always find a way?
Example: Jogging on a recently repaved road, I noticed one area of the new asphalt changing over a period of weeks. It first rose up several inches, then cracked, then opened like a volcano. What emerged was foliage.
Trapped under the pavement, a skunk cabbage seed had grown into a plant so hardy it broke right through to the light and air.
Everyone faces walls and barriers. The unhappy choice is to let them stop you. Believing you can find an opening to grow and blossom is the joyous, life-affirming option.
Helpful:
Be open to redirection. When things don't go as you have planned, stop and think where this different path might be leading you. Events that at first seem to be unfortunate or undesirable may actually provide surprising advantages.
Judge each problem as an opportunity to grow. Many patients I've treated and counseled over the years have said their illnesses taught them to value their lives and implement wonderful changes.
You don't have to "break through the pavement" in a single day. Take troubles one step at a time. Celebrate each sign of progress before taking the next step.
Deal constructively with criticism. The Sufi poet Rumi wrote, "Criticism polishes my mirror."
Regarding criticism as a threat, an insult or proof that you're worthless won't make you happy. Instead, it is better to take a more optimistic view and see criticism as a learning tool to help you improve.
I've been fortunate to have many critics among my patients. When people give you criticism, it means they feel you are willing to listen and change.
Helpful:
Evaluate the source of the criticism. Those who love finding fault with everyone will only scratch your mirror, not polish it.
When criticized by people you trust, think of yourself as an athlete getting direction and support from a coach who wants to see you perform better.
Don't let criticism shake your confidence. Use appraisals as a way to help you reach a higher level of performance.
Monday, March 1, 2010
Internet Protocol Address
This number is an exclusive number all information technology devices (printers, routers, modems, et al) use which identifies and allows them the ability to communicate with each other on a computer network. There is a standard of communication which is called an Internet Protocol standard (IP). In laymans terms it is the same as your home address. In order for you to receive snail mail at home the sending party must have your correct mailing address (IP address) in your town (network) or you do not receive bills, pizza coupons or your tax refund. The same is true for all equipment on the internet. Without this specific address, information cannot be received. IP addresses may either be assigned permanently for an Email server/Business server or a permanent home resident or temporarily, from a pool of available addresses (first come first serve) from your Internet Service Provider. A permanent number may not be available in all areas and may cost extra so be sure to ask your ISP.
Domain Name System (DNS): This allows the IP address to be translated to words. It is much easier for us to remember a word than a series of numbers. The same is true for email addresses.
For example, it is much easier for you to remember a web address name such as whatismyip.com than it is to remember 192.168.1.1 or in the case of email it is much easier to remember email@somedomain.com than email@192.168.1.1
Dynamic IP: One that is not static and could change at any time. This type of IP is issued to you from a pool of IP addresses allocated by your ISP or DHCP Server. This is for a large number of customers that do not require the same IP all the time for a variety of reasons. Your computer will automatically get this number as it logs on to the network and saves you the trouble of having to know details regarding the specific network configurations. This number can be assigned to anyone using a dial-up connection, Wireless and High Speed Internet connections. If you need to run your own email server or web server, it would be best to have a static IP.
Static IP: One that is fixed and never changes. This is in contrast to a dynamic IP which may change at any time. Most ISP's a single static IP or a block of static IP's for a few extra bucks a month.
IP version 4: Currently used by most network devices. However, with more and more computers accessing the internet, IPv4 IPs are running out quickly. Just like in a city, addresses have to be created for new neighborhoods but, if your neighborhood gets too large, you will have to come up with an entire new pool of addresses. IPv4 is limited to 4,294,967,296 IPs.
IP version 5: This is an experimental protocol for UNIX based systems. In keeping with standard UNIX (a computer Operating System) release conventions, all odd-numbered versions are considered experimental. It was never intended to be used by the general public.
IP version 6: The replacement for the aging IPv4. The estimated number of unique IPs for IPv6 is 340,282,366,920,938,463,463,374,607,431,768,211,456 or 2^128.
The old and current standard of IPs was this: 192.168.100.100 the new way can be written different ways but means the same and are all valid:
* 1080:0000:0000:0000:0000:0034:0000:417A
* 1080:0:0:0:0:34:0:417A
* 1080::34:0:417A
How To Determine If Your Computer Is Being Assigned The External IP Address
For Windows 2000, XP, and 2003
1. Click Start
2. Click Run
3. Type in cmd and hit ok
4. Type ipconfig and hit enter
For Vista
1. Click Start
2. Click All Programs expand the Accessories menu
3. In the Accessories menu, Right Click Command Prompt and choose Run as administrator
4. Type ipconfig hit enter
Results
If you see an IP that resembles 192.168.n.n then this is an internal IP address assigned by a router. So your router is getting your external IP address. If the IP displayed in the command prompt window matches the one shown on What Is My IP then your computer is being assigned your external IP.
Domain Name System (DNS): This allows the IP address to be translated to words. It is much easier for us to remember a word than a series of numbers. The same is true for email addresses.
For example, it is much easier for you to remember a web address name such as whatismyip.com than it is to remember 192.168.1.1 or in the case of email it is much easier to remember email@somedomain.com than email@192.168.1.1
Dynamic IP: One that is not static and could change at any time. This type of IP is issued to you from a pool of IP addresses allocated by your ISP or DHCP Server. This is for a large number of customers that do not require the same IP all the time for a variety of reasons. Your computer will automatically get this number as it logs on to the network and saves you the trouble of having to know details regarding the specific network configurations. This number can be assigned to anyone using a dial-up connection, Wireless and High Speed Internet connections. If you need to run your own email server or web server, it would be best to have a static IP.
Static IP: One that is fixed and never changes. This is in contrast to a dynamic IP which may change at any time. Most ISP's a single static IP or a block of static IP's for a few extra bucks a month.
IP version 4: Currently used by most network devices. However, with more and more computers accessing the internet, IPv4 IPs are running out quickly. Just like in a city, addresses have to be created for new neighborhoods but, if your neighborhood gets too large, you will have to come up with an entire new pool of addresses. IPv4 is limited to 4,294,967,296 IPs.
IP version 5: This is an experimental protocol for UNIX based systems. In keeping with standard UNIX (a computer Operating System) release conventions, all odd-numbered versions are considered experimental. It was never intended to be used by the general public.
IP version 6: The replacement for the aging IPv4. The estimated number of unique IPs for IPv6 is 340,282,366,920,938,463,463,374,607,431,768,211,456 or 2^128.
The old and current standard of IPs was this: 192.168.100.100 the new way can be written different ways but means the same and are all valid:
* 1080:0000:0000:0000:0000:0034:0000:417A
* 1080:0:0:0:0:34:0:417A
* 1080::34:0:417A
How To Determine If Your Computer Is Being Assigned The External IP Address
For Windows 2000, XP, and 2003
1. Click Start
2. Click Run
3. Type in cmd and hit ok
4. Type ipconfig and hit enter
For Vista
1. Click Start
2. Click All Programs expand the Accessories menu
3. In the Accessories menu, Right Click Command Prompt and choose Run as administrator
4. Type ipconfig hit enter
Results
If you see an IP that resembles 192.168.n.n then this is an internal IP address assigned by a router. So your router is getting your external IP address. If the IP displayed in the command prompt window matches the one shown on What Is My IP then your computer is being assigned your external IP.
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